If you’ve been following our blog, you know that Adam and I talk openly about race in our family. Our son is 2, though, so I never in my wildest dreams imagined having a conversation about race with someone who isn’t able to use the potty, yet, although he is right on schedule according to studies.
But today, it happened.
There are very few pics of our son on the internet. I do this mainly because I want him to own his online footprint when and if he is ready to claim it. Another reason I do this is because people are just fucking idiots when it comes to pictures of kids on the internet and I have zero patience for the nonsense. This week, someone commented on a picture of him in a tshirt that says “I Love My Blackness and Yours, Too”. The person commented (and then deleted) that he couldn’t love his blackness because he is white. He then proceeded to tell me that I was trying to whiten my children.
As many of you have heard, I’ve been helping plan the Women’s March on Washington. Specifically, I’ve been coordinating the Youth Initiative. It’s been quite a journey the last 3 months and we are now a week away. I’m super excited and can’t wait for Adam, our son and I to participate in this historic event. The support for the march has been incredible. Vogue did a wonderful piece on the organizers.
This past week was intense, right?. Let’s just say it wasn’t the greatest election result for those of us who believe in racial justice. Tabitha and I were tense and walking around New York the day after the election was eerie–it was raining, everyone looked warn out and the future was dire.
Adam: The election is today and let’s just say Tabitha and I are kind of scared for our family. There are two major identifiers in our family: We’re interracial and we’re Jewish. This election has brought out both racism and anti-Semitism in fellow Americans. Tabitha and I have discussed both of these “isms” at length. “Did you see the latest video?” became a question between us, one that we used too frequently to refer to a video of another Black person shot by police or intensely mistreated because of the color of their skin. I grew up believing (and still believe) that the Holocaust could happen again. Continue reading
A few weeks ago, there was another spate of police shootings that involved men of color. I wrote about it for The Stir. You can read my thoughts here. In the interim, Adam and I attended a peace vigil in Brooklyn which highlighted that the problem of systematic racism is highly politicized. There were lots of politicians and policemen and the pandering was so disgusting, I had to leave. I went with some friends from our synagogue and was so heartened that many of them felt and expressed the same annoyance that the gathering was not solution-based.
Now, it’s out of the news.
Since then, there has been a terrorist attack, shootings of policemen and Melania’s ‘borrowed’ speech. It’s out of the headlines and I feel a strong need to not let it fade out of my life.
Stay tuned to hear what we are doing to try to make an impactful change on this very serious issue of systematic racism in America.
Tonight my word for racial justice is “whatever”. I don’t mean that in a dismissive way, but rather in the “I don’t know everything so I’ll leave it open-ended” way. Continue reading
ADAM: Some of my best friends are black. Some of my best friends are Jewish. Those statements are supposed to somehow justify the next one which is usually along the lines of…”so I know how Jews are” or “so I know about the black experience”. Tabitha and I hear these statements from time to time and we bristle every single time. If you ever catch yourself about to say something like this, don’t. Continue reading
Mayor Bill De Blasio is in hot water for saying “I was running on C.P. time” in what was a scripted skit involving “Hamilton” star Leslie Odom Jr. and Hillary Clinton. The city is up in arms. In typical Hillary fashion, she is putting the blame on De Blasio for the skit. I don’t think De Blasio has a racist bone in his body. I do think, however, that he needs to have his black privilege checked and Chirlane is the one to do it. Continue reading