On Mother’s Day, I Think About The Guy Who Changed My Life

It’s my second Mother’s Day with the baby and this one is more delightful than the last because he’s so much more interactive. He has changed my life in so many ways. Most of them are for the better. Some….debatable. Here are 5 ways this little person has changed my life.

  1. He helped me prioritize my life. This past week, I spoke to Geri Stengel at Forbes Magazine about the struggles of juggling motherhood and running a business. Read the article here. When my little guy came into our lives, he had to compete with my first baby, my business. I started Tabii Just, a clothing line, in 2012, before we even thought about having a baby. When the real baby came along, I struggled for months trying to balance the two. Both were ever present and needed constant attention. Only one would be emotionally scarred if I checked out. Continue reading

Attitude of Gratitude: Day 2

Curry Bagel. Tabitha St. Bernard. Boardwalk

So even in my attempt to be grateful in my last post, I was still throwing shade to the person who inspired me to  do this. This positivity thing is super hard. Here goes Day 2.

Today,  I am grateful that on a nice day, Adam, the baby and I took a peaceful walk on the boardwalk. I have a really big meeting on Thursday and lots of prep to do but I realized that there will always be work. There will always be deadlines. Sure enough, it was worth it. The baby wanted to hold Mommy’s hand in one hand and Daddy’s in the other. When either of us let go, he would freak out. He wanted to just walk down the boardwalk like this. It really hit home for me how impactful the dynamic between Adam and I is for him. Even though he doesn’t verbally express it, it affects him when we are together, not stressed out and not working. This solidified the importance of having an attitude of gratitude even more because I am already seeing how my temperament is affecting him. 

Your turn. What are you grateful for, today?

Chirlane, Come Get Your Man

Bill_de_Blasio_family_2012Mayor Bill De Blasio is in hot water for saying “I was running on C.P. time” in what was a scripted skit involving “Hamilton” star Leslie Odom Jr. and Hillary Clinton. The city is up in arms. In typical Hillary fashion, she is putting the blame on De Blasio for the skit. I don’t think De Blasio has a racist bone in his body. I do think, however, that he needs to have his black privilege checked and Chirlane is the one to do it. Continue reading

Babies & Braids Do Not Mix

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I did the unimaginable and I found the time to do my hair. Mommy win! I’ve been obsessed with Gabrielle Union’s braids for a minute and I wanted to experiment with the look so I decided to try it. This is the second time I’ve done braids but the first that I’m doing it with a full head of hair, post-side shave. I used to braid hair back in college and the process of doing my own hair is always a fun little me-time activity. I can’t remember the last time post-pregnancy that I took this much time for myself.

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No-one tells you that babies and braids just do not mix, though. I had this vision of long, flowing locks cascading over my shoulders.

Yeeaaahhhh….. Continue reading

Hi, there, gorgeous….

It is 2:12am and we are starting a blog.

And by we, I mean me, Tabitha.

Adam is fast asleep on the couch after coming home from a workshop with our synagogue about talking to your kids about race (more on that from him later) and Baby SBJ has been asleep since 8pm, making me officially my own hero.

Adam and I decided to start this blog because we talk about race and religion a ton. It may be a bit much but that’s our style. I was pretty clueless about being mixed race in the US until our son was born. As it turns out, he is super pale. I wrote about my experience with a child who could pass as white for Cafe Media and the Huffington Post picked up the article. Read it here. The coolest thing that came out of it was how many moms and dads shared their family pics and stories. It was amazing to me that so many families go through the same thing but it’s not a public dialogue.

I want to change that. Let’s talk about race with our kids. Let’s unpack that shit from as young as possible. That’s why Baby SBJ’s first words were “Black lives matter”.

I hope you’ll join in on our convos, even when you don’t agree with us and share your stories of race in the US as we share ours.